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Cynthia Nicholson’s excerpts and application taken from Larry McNeill’s outline – “Paul’s Affectionate Attention to Esteemed Colleagues: A Missionary’s Cross-cultural Relationships” Intro: Paul cultivated relationships with a large number of persons he mentions by name (Col. 1:9-11). To whom is your first level of relationship responsibility? Spouse Children fellow missionaries AD, RD AGWM national executives District leadership supporting pastors supporting churches Relatives recipients of ministry 1. Thessalonians 1:1 – Paul acknowledges Silas and Timothy as participating with him. -- Give credit and share credit, as a writer quotes a source -- Negative example: newsletter that intimates the results are solely because of the efforts of the reporting missionary 2. 1 Corinthians 16:18 – Paul says these people deserve recognition -- Honor to whom honor is due -- Example: Lorene Gould explained in Paraguay’s 50th anniversary why missionaries stay and even come back after retirement; they feel loved and accepted, despite flaws. 3. 2 Corinthians 7:6 – Paul recommends Titus to them, acknowledging his enthusiasm and his personal initiative. -- Give room to the “movers and shakers” and those with different styles 4. Romans 16 – Relationships with Co-workers A. Women -- Phoebe: “servant” is translated “deacon” whenever the same word applies to a male -- Priscilla and Aquila – juxtaposed names -- Junias (clearly a female name) – imprisoned with Paul, listed among the Apostles B. Timothy (v. 21) – no one else like him -- some rise to the top 5. Philemon – (v.10-23) Onesimus and Epaphras -- slaves and prisoners are equals -- all people are bearers of the imago dei, whatever their education, race or status 6. Colossians – 10 Coworkers A. Recommendations for how to build relationships over time 1. Recognize that love comes from God -- ask him to help yo see that person through his eyes -- build trust by sharing personal stories, adding more intimate details over time (as safety is established through trustworthiness) B. Stages of team building for projects and specific purposes 1. forming – establish roles, goals, rules 2. storming – members disagree, are defensive, compete, choose sides, clash for control, blame team 3. norming – begin to understand one another, harmony is established; confidence built, cohesion, spirit unifies 4. performing – effective, cohesive unit, constructive self-change (can take on a new member or two at this point) 5. adjourning – bittersweet good-byes, lifelong friendships result. C. Effective Communication: ICU model for both speaker and listener, focusing on the feelings behind the words 1. I – Identify the feelings 2. C – Care 3. U – Understand Conclusion: Personal investment in interpersonal as well as cross-cultural relationships will benefit the missionary as well as all those with whom he/she connects.
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